One of the reasons I love having this blog (though I don’t use it as much as I would like), is the ability to clearly express myself and to describe and explain my beliefs and reasons for those without having to actually talk to people. Cowardly, I know but it is often easier to write it all out and put it out in the cyber universe for people to read than to stand and tell them to their faces how I feel. This is mostly because I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings and so I pull my punches and don’t say what I really want to say when I am face to face with someone. I have recently gotten into watching The Mark Gungor show on the iPad during the day as I go about my chores. This is really the whole premise of the show: he gives you brutal honesty, you are totally anonymous and he doesn’t have to deal with hurting people’s feelings because people email in their questions, he never actually talks to or directly interacts with these people in anyway so that his answers aren’t biased. Love his common sense approach to topics that most Christians ignore or are too shy or ashamed to talk about.
So, having said all of that I want to address a number of things that bug me and hopefully avoid hurting any feelings.
1. Christians who try to apply Biblical principles and rules for living to non-Christians: this is not the way to bring people to Christ! If you read the New Testament, and especially the letters from Paul, you will find a distinct pattern in the way he formats his letters. He always begins by stating what he believes, why he believes it, reminding the church he is addressing of what they claim to believe but seem to have forgotten, and THEN telling them how to live in light of what they believe. If they do not believe in or trust Jesus why on earth would they follow His rules? And yet we as believers feel obligated to point out to our heathen friends all the terrible decisions they are making and how wrong it is for them to live like they do, without ever taking the time to make sure they understand and believe the much more important stuff like who Jesus is, that he died to save them, how he rose from the dead…no, no we just skip right to condemning them for breaking rules which they have no reason to follow in the first place. If you are concerned about the decisions a friend or family member is making, do them a favor and share the good news and love of Jesus, that actually has the power to save their souls. The best you can hope for otherwise is making them a “moral” person who tries to do what is “right.” But, they really have no hope and no understanding of what “right” is if they do not know Jesus.
2. People who want everything: this is not possible. All the time, couples put off getting married or having kids because of money or school or the desire to travel. That’s fine, I don’t think it’s in their best interest, but that is their decision. Only, they finally do get married and decide to start a family and, low and behold, they can’t get pregnant because they waited so long! You can’t have everything people! If money and travel and education is more important than marriage and children, fine. That is your decision but don’t go complaining when you finally decide to put away your selfish ambitions if things don’t go as planned. If you are comfortable with and willing to take those risks, fine, but most people end up miserable and regretting the time they wasted on trivial things. They are fifty when their kid graduates from high school and seventy before they get their first grand kid. It sounds like foolishness to me. But we are like this with everything, not just kids. We want to have a good paying job, a skinny Minnie body, spend lots of time with our spouses and kids and still have time for a hobby. Real life just doesn’t work that way, or at least not for 90% of us. Working 40 hours a week is not conducive to spending a lot of time with your family unless you are willing to give up almost everything else. If your gym membership means that much to you, just accept that you probably won’t have time for that hobby and you may miss putting your kids to bed. We can’t have everything! You have to make decisions based on what is most important to you but don’t complain when you aren’t happy with the result…you made that choice!
I have a couple more, but that is enough for now. 🙂